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Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself

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I particularly appreciated the author's emphasis on the importance of being true to oneself and living an authentic life. Feeling desperate, she acts out of character and lands herself in trouble, but the question is, will Sophie be brave enough when it really matters? It gradually increases and when it comes time for that first kiss, the sparks and chemistry that has been building has flared to life. If you ever feel the slightest bit of responsibility for anybody else's feelings, move this book to the top of your list.

The examples and exercises in the book were excellent, easy to complete, meaningful, and easy to relate to. This book is an absolutely necessary read for someone with anxiety, someone with internal conflict of "where do I stand on this?

I appreciate that it's pretty straightforward and yes almost cliche, but it still easily held my attention. Pay in 4 is a form of credit, so consider whether you can afford the repayments as use of the product may impact your credit score. I do wish it could have gotten a little more intimate with Aidan and Jenna or have more pages about their relationship starting. You might have a 3 or even 4 star experience that way, especially if you relate to the author more than I do.

As Aiden and Jenna spend more time together, she starts to develop feelings and worries that, once again, she is making the same mistake as in past relationships.You can choose to ignore it but that doesn’t make you bold and authentic; it makes you a bit of a jerk. My interpretation of 'less nice' being more assertive and clear about what you do and don't want (or agree with), and being able to communicate that even if you feel uncomfortable about it in the beginning.

I am personally a very empathic person and would usually care that other people are feeling great in my presence. Gazipura explains that while 'nice guys' might believe that boundaries are a form of self-centeredness, they are, in fact, crucial for our well-being and for nurturing fulfilling relationships. At this point in my life especially, this was not the message I needed but reading through this book I identified with a lot of experiences I've had OF OTHER PEOPLE and I would highly recommend this book to anyone considering it because if considering it, it would likely speak to you.Reading the premise, I deff assumed this would be a forced proximity romance or something but I was not expecting him to actually ask her out for a drink. The author uses engaging stories, humor and openness to teach you how to say "no," stop your people-pleasing habits, and reduce worry. Then you will have a bad remorse and realization that it's not who you want to be - you are not a jerk. Especially because given how massive the book is, you'd think their would be some seriously deep analysis of the topics brought forward.

Aziz Gazipura takes us on a journey of understanding and overcoming what he refers to as the "Nice Guy Syndrome". In the beginning of the relationship, you’ll find that you have to do most of the talking until they feel comfortable opening up.Being able to be assertive can reduce personal stress because you work to create an environment in which you feel satisfied — not one where you feel overwhelmed, trampled on or dominated. Aiden was certainly not a man of many words, and as stated before, this was a slow burn romance- but OH, that first kiss definitely gave me all the feels! But sometimes you do things that you don't want to do and you just tell yourself that you're doing it for the other person or for the team or for mentorship or whatever and it's fine. It's highly addictive to get core insights on personally relevant topics without repetition or triviality.

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